We (Heather & David) miss you and love you so much.
Have you notice that most people have one of two responses during this time?
- The best: looking to the interest of others, serving, kindness, gentleness…
- The worst: selfish, self-centered, unkind, lack of gentleness…
We are concerned and wondering about how you are navigating difficult relationships at home during lockdown…the following thoughts have been spurred on by Alasdair Groves & Julie Lowe. You can listen and read more at HERE.
What do we do when relationships are difficult at home?
Let us provide some thoughts, in light of the wisdom of the Lord, look at some different categories we may find ourselves in, and address what help looks like and barriers that keep us stuck.
Wisdom of the Lord
The Lord gives us guidance in Romans 12:18
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
Galatians 6 calls us to bear one another’s burdens and in verse 9 Paul encourages us,
do not grow weary of doing good.
The Lord is our hope and He can help us respond in kindness and gentleness to those around us, even in difficult times.
Let’s look at some difficult relationship categories we may find ourselves in the pressure cooker of our homes during these challenging times.
- Unhappy: this may be seen by low grade conflict, not getting along, unkindness, a lack of gentleness…
- Unhealthy: this more challenging category may be seen by greater conflict, addictions, distress, anger, explosiveness, disunity…
- Unsafe: this is the worst and may be seen by abuse; physical, emotional, spiritual…people are at risk…
Help & Barriers
Why would we be in one of these categories and not ask for help? It could be pride–I can handle things, or fear—what will happen if…, or will I be shamed by the church?
Let us encourage you, if you find yourself in one of these situations, Ask for Help, invite someone in to help. Call a friend, a small group leader or someone in leadership at our church. These are difficult times and we need help.